The answer is YES…. It can and it does…..
Sex is not ‘sex’ in love. It is like a soul bonding or connecting
between two human which has deeper meanings for them.
If you ask me that in a relationship where love is very much there but
sex is not then defiantly, it will hamper the relationship.
If it is not there, because both of the partners don’t feel the need or
urge, it’s fine (but they’re missing something beautiful). But if it is not
there, by lack of desire by one partner of course, how long one partner can
understand one’s feeling & ignore his/her own desire. Not for long…..
Either it becomes a hurdle for relationship. It makes it bitter or
either it won’t be relationship anymore.
If the other partner can’t get it through his/her partner obviously, there
will be saturation point for his patience also & may be this can attract
him towards other person outside the relationship.
Or either with physical their emotional intimacy also falls down. It is
a matter of rejection for one partner. Lot of negative feeling of self worth,
attraction, confidence, morale, sadism can add on this. (lack of love-unloved
unappreciated).
There are so many expressions which human can show & in the moments
of physical intimacy. It is a problem which has its answer. But can become
conflict. So other one can’t take it lightly & say “No, I am not feeling
like or I don’t feel the need or what.”
These lines itself show that this time you have is to get up & do
something. Before it’s too late, stop
giving excuses to yourself & your partner. You can’t brush this under the
carpet thinking that it is not important.
It is 100% in Indian context already sex is a taboo & I’ve seen lot
of couples who do not talk about it openly with their partners….trying to
suppress themselves & then one day it comes out in any other form.
Dr. Nishu Shukla
The Counseling Institute
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